Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Anniversary v. Mother's Day: The Epic Battle

Sunday is our first anniversary--it is really hard to believe that already a year has flown past.  I'm so happy that God gave me the man he did.  It's been an amazing year and I am so excited to see where our lives will go. 

This past year has been so much calmer than last year--which is understandable as there was no wedding to plan.  :-)  One of the biggest causes of stress last year was the fact that we were getting married on Mother's Day weekend.  We didn't know this, of course, until after we'd already booked all of our locations and let everyone know the date.  Then, my mother called me mortified, wanting to know if we could change it because of Mother's Day.  No.  That was the end of it for me, but it was not for her.  I did not see her last year on Mother's Day considering that we left for St. Lucia at 0-Dark-Thirty on Sunday morning.  She seemed to take this hard.

Well, now this year my anniversary is ON Mother's Day.  Let me tell you how well that has gone over (plus, it was IMPOSSIBLE to get dinner reservations, so we had to settle for Saturday night).  She's been generally gracious about it, but has laid on the guilt lately (which is something I've really been struggling with emotionally with her).  Comments, not to me, but to my sister or others, have been really bothersome.  My sister and I planned to take her to lunch this Saturday....but, she's got plans (hosting a shower, so that is understandable).  Then, she leaves for England on Friday and the weekend after she returns, we will be in Florida.  Because of work, I cannot take a long lunch during the week.  I'm really not trying to complain, but I'm just really bothered by this.  I am thankful for her and do want to celebrate with her, but I also want to celebrate with my husband.  I'm just at a loss for how to handle this, especially as it will be a problem for the rest of our lives.  My husband and anniversary is the most important to me, but I still want to respect my mother's feelings and desires.   

On a side note, have you ever seen spinach shaped like this?  I bought some at the farmer's market this weekend and discovered it's odd shape last night.  The interwebs suggest it may be Horenso, a Japanese Spinach.